| 91 | Real Families Have Fights - How to Keep the Holidays Happy Preview: Due to the complexity of our new normalcy, achieving wonderful holiday cheer may take a little extra work this year. For many people, Thanksgiving heralds a month of myths often culminating in January depression. Newspapers, magazines, the big and little screens and our own childhood wishes propel us towards dreams of wonderful Thanksgiving dinner... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 28 January,2002 |
| 92 | Reactions to Traumatic Events Part 1 Preview: What to expect. Men. The other day I was talking to a guy’s guy whom I know well. He is a glib and facile talker, hard drinker and intellectually astute man. We were on the phone and I had never heard him sound so down. “What’s up?” I asked very carefully, not to sound concerned. “Hey doc.” He said, trying to remain upbeat. “Yup.” I answered, jus... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 28 January,2002 |
| 93 | Sex With Your Ex Preview: The death of a marriage must be mourned like any other lost relationship. It is often experienced as a death of family, of commitment, hope, or a dream. Dreams die-hard as there is nothing tangible about them and no place to put the “body.” When one is a widow or a widower the entire world knows you have experienced a death and there are rituals t... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 28 January,2002 |
| 94 | The Death Of A Child Preview: There may be nothing in life as devastating as the death of a child. Elders are supposed to pass on before their young. After all, that is nature's law. Yet, “Death hath no dominion.” And, life is not always fair. The death of a young child is the single most powerful predictor of divorce. This is true because a parent's grief knows no bounds. Se... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 28 January,2002 |
| 95 | Reactions To Traumatic Events - Part 2 Preview: What to expect: Women A woman's work is never done--so goes the saying -- and during this time of uncertainty and healing, perhaps this is truer than ever. Women tend to be the ones responsible for keeping the home fires burning, children's schedules organized, and the their own lives in order. Plus, she is often involved with community connection... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 28 January,2002 |
| 96 | Holiday Blues Preview: There is no stigma attached to getting emotional help. After all, if you sprain your ankle you wouldn't think twice about going to a professional. If you "sprain your brain," so to speak, you need to treat that as well. While the holidays are an exciting time for most people, many others suffer depression more severely during this time of year. An... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 97 | Marriage And Money Preview: Studies show that money issues are the highest cause of marital conflict and cause for divorce. Conflicts over money and money management outweigh conflicts over sex (including affairs) and differences over raising children as the greatest trouble area in a marriage. Partners enter a marriage with an intensely personal history of how they have han... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 98 | Dear Tech Support Preview: Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed that the new program began making unexpected changes to the accounting modules, limiting access to flower and jewelry applications that had operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0. In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.9 but installed ... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 99 | Education For Our Troubled Times Preview: The events of September 11th and the aftermath of anthrax scares and security warnings shattered our illusions and morphed our once familiar world into a new and unfamiliar one. As a result, all of us are learning to live with a newly developing normalcy. Metaphorically speaking, we are only at the first stage of this education—taking our prelimin... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 100 | Motherhood And Madness Preview: When her husband suddenly walked out on her, my friend Barbara was a very young mother of four children between the ages of two and six. Her husband had become addicted to pot and their marriage had begun to disintegrate. Barbara was a “good girl” and she had sixteen years of perfect attendance Sunday School pins to attest to this fact. She had le... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 101 | A Season of Sorrow and Joy Preview: As the holiday week starts in full force many of us will skate between sorrow and joy, fear and hope concern and celebration. For some, it will be a particularly hard week. As a result of September 11th, they have lost someone they love and are not only alone, but also in mourning. Others will reevaluate their priorities and cherish even more thos... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 102 | Living Virtually: Missing Reality Preview: I have a dear friend, Diana whom I used to meet for lunch quite often. Lately work has had her traveling between three cities. I miss her terribly. I also have another close friend, Josh who used to live in my city. Josh and his wife now live in another state and Josh and I frequently communicate by e-mail. Both of these relationships have evolved... (more) Published By: Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 103 | In Sickness And In Health Until Death Do Us Part Preview: A simple love story He was young and arrogant and intent on marrying an heiress. Long black hair flying behind her, she walked into his life. He thought he was superior to her. She didn’t notice, as she wasn’t the least bit interested in him. Two years later, madly in love, they married. For twenty years, they fought, loved, fought through the ni... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 104 | One Person's Cross May Be Another Person's Salvation - Part 2 Preview: Your genetic makeup, personal history, and particular preferences and abilities help dictate not only how you view the world, but also what experiences may cause you concern. Some people take so much time thinking about an event that they may never act, while others confuse activity with productivity. We have all watched bathers enter a swimming p... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 105 | Give At The Office: Empty At Home Preview: As the stigma of seeking therapy has diminished, serious therapists have themselves become scapegoats and symbols for much that is wrong with the mental health field. This distrust of the therapeutic professions comes at a time when there is an increasing unraveling of relationships, family, and community and society needs good therapists more tha... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 106 | Coming of Age: Part 1 Preview: A Valentine For Grown-Ups And All Those Who Will Someday Be Over Fifty Part One of Two Every six seconds, an American man or woman enters the sexual wilderness of life after 50. There are close to 60 million of us in our mid-50s and beyond. We are boomers, seniors, wise and sexy elders. We crisscross and belong to all walks of life. At no poin... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 107 | Coming Of Age Preview: A Valentine For Grown-Ups And All Those Who Will Someday Be Over Fifty At age 49, I was walking with the man I was dating, ambling along a lovely rural road. In the distance we saw a couple perhaps in their nineties walking slowly, holding hands. Studying them on the quiet country road, he turned to me and said, "if we are fortunate, that will ... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 108 | Divorce Is Not A Good Idea Right Now Preview: Since September 11th although tempers have flared, depression has increased and sleeplessness has become an unwelcome visitor to many, committed relationships have not faltered and divorce filings have declined. Why is this? Even though people are stressed and often wind up fighting with their husband, wife or significant other, something positive... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 109 | People Are Like Tea Bags Preview: Put them in hot water and they grow stronger — except for those that don’t. On a recent trip to a distant state, my husband and I unexpectedly met a couple visiting the same sightseer’s monument that we were. After speaking for a while, one of those delightful and unexpected light bulbs went on and we realized they were related to two close frien... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |
| 110 | Father's Day Preview: BASEBALL MEMORIES A DAUGHTER’S TALE My father wanted a son. I understood that from the time I could intuit those secret messages that children know without knowing they know. My dad loved me. I also knew that. But, raising a daughter was foreign to him. Certainly, it wasn’t his first choice. So, in the ways that a child tries to please a parent... (more) Published By: Dr. Dorree Lynn Submitted: 29 January,2002 |